Monday, August 07, 2006

WEIGHTY ISSUE


We don't describe people as "fat" in our house. The word fat has been saved for describing animals like, "Oh! Isn't that a cute little fat kitty?" or "Our dog Ben is fat and old."

Izzy obviously got the idea.

Last week we had to get Izzy updated on his immunizations before preschool starts. Izzy doesn't mind getting shots and never cries. He actually looks forward to it. At the end of his doctor visit, Izzy knows he will get a lollipop and a bright colored band aid on his owie.

Our Physicians Nurse is a very large woman. OK. She is morbidly obese. It's really quite painful to watch her move around. Simple tasks such as weighing a child or walking down the hallway to a room can put beads of sweat on her forehead.

When we were waiting for the doctor and the Nurse was asking me general health questions about Izzy, this is what I hear in the background coming out of Izzy's mouth:

"Mom? Is she fat?"
"Mom? Is she fat?"
"MOOOOOMMMMMM! IS SHE FAT?"

At this point, I start apologizing to the nurse and she leaves the room. I explained to Izzy that people come in all sorts of shapes and sizes and that it is impolite to call people fat and it hurts their feelings.

I was embarrassed, but more than anything.....just sad. I can't imagine what it would be like on a daily basis for this woman and countless others that are obese. What it must do to someone's psyche to have people stare at you or call you fat on a daily basis. I don't pretend to know what that feels like, but it must feel really really awful.

The Nurse returned to give Izzy his shot. I wondered if she poked him just a little harder than usual?

5 comments:

Jennboree said...

Kids are brutally honest but I think you handled him well! I don't look forward to being in the same situation, which I'm sure I will be one day!

My husband asked his mom once if she was fat. She replied that she's just "fluffy".

tallulah said...

Ha Ha Ha! Fluffy. I love that!

MomSquared said...

Kids say things. I'm sure she understood that.

I remember my mom being embarassed when I said, in hearing range of two black men, "They're not black, they're BROWN!"

Children just observe things. I don't think it's generally negative or positive, just learning to make distinctions.

And I vow to keep that in mind the next time some kid says something about me. :)

And I agree with Jennboree, I also think you handled it well.

Blah blah! Okay I will shut up now! It's not like you didn't know all of that anyway!

SoozieQ said...

Yah kids do say what they think. Just this weekend I had a (maybe?) 4 year old little girl (the daughter of the dog's obedience instructor) call me a "Poopy Nerd".

I guess I am.

Anonymous said...

I REMEMBER WHEN A BLACK LADY USED TO WALK PAST OUR HOUSE PUSHING A CARRIAGE. YOU ALWAYS ASKED HER TO SHOW YOU HER "CHOCOLATE" BABY. AND YOU ONLY WANTED A CHOCOLATE DOLL FOR CHRISTMAS